Walk A Mile in His Pants
Walk A Mile in His Pants
The Dream that Changed My View of Men
You know how sometimes you have one dream that can shift your awareness? A dream that you remember vividly for a long, long time? A dream which becomes almost central in its importance to your life?
Well, it happened to me about 20 years ago. The morning I awoke from dreaming that I was a man with a penis, my entire view of men had been significantly altered. I was a very debonaire man, a man on the move. A man with a great profession, an intelligent man. But the only thing I could think about was - how can I put this delicately? - the only thing that mattered to me was "scratching" that "itch.
When I awoke from that dream, I said, "Ah HA!" I COMPLETELY understood the psyche of a man. In sharing the dream with my husband, I ended by saying, "Now I get it. I truly don't know how you men get anything done at all, when the top priority of your very existence is to get it on, all day, every day." He laughed, but seemed relieved that I now understood men COMPLETELY.
Mainstream media knowing that “if it bleeds, it leads” devote a lot of print to sensationalizing extra-marital affairs of celebrities. Most men have learned to live within the confines of society where rubbing your member on anything and everything is socially unacceptable. But a lot of men, with their overwhelming volcanos of testosterone, have a much more difficult time controlling their needs. A man's sex drive is directly proportional to the size of his ego, right?
Men who are dads should think of their children prior to opening the cans of worms that could easily infiltrate their lives, their marriages and their reputations. Maybe they don't care about their children as much as they care about sexual fulfillment.
Since having my dream, I have often wondered how women expect men not to BE men. It's a man's nature to want sexual fulfillment - pretty much ALL of the time. Of course he's going to look at other women. Consider that a blessing; it means your man is not gay; he is into women and that's a GOOD thing in a heterosexual scenario. Are you the kind of woman who feels threatened about your guy's attendance at bachelor parties or "tittie" bars? Get over it fast and stop taking it personally.
Because he will only start lying to you. If you can't accept him as the man he is, then you are being unrealistic. Whether or not he engages another woman in the act of sex is up to you. Are you paying him enough attention? Are you communicating? Are you fulfilling each other?
Having children really complicates matters because if you pay more attention to the kids than to the man who helped you create them, then you are probably going to suffer some consequences in your relationship.
All I know is, you can't fault a man for being a man. If you don't believe me, then walk a mile in his pants.